Recently, I read Tim Urban’s WaitButWhy article How to Pick Your Life Partner. At 29, I’m kicking myself for not having found and read this back in 2014 when it was published. But I think it’s a testament to how much I’ve learned from my failed relationships that it looks pretty similar to my own list. I highly encourage anyone looking for romantic success to read both parts of that article.

It can be easy to know what you’re looking for in a life partner. Okay, maybe not, considering it took all of my twenties to halfway figure it out…

When you first meet Michael Kung, you’re probably wondering to yourself if you’re boring this guy because man, what’s up with that monotone voice. At the same time, his soft smile puts you at ease, and his distinct chuckle at your jokes (and stupid things you say) makes you start feeling like a pretty cool person. You’ll soon find that his voice is just another thing that makes him special. It’s only the beginning of all the things you’ll learn about him that is so much more than meets the eye. …

Whenever I’m feeling sad, or hurt, or alone, I have this instinct to run far away, away from everything and everyone that is familiar to me. I guess it’s like an adult tantrum. During those times, I crave comfort and familiarity and solace, but it’s a strange thing that I reject those things and pursue the exact opposite. Perhaps it’s because those negative feelings are overwhelming, and the only way for me to calm down and breathe is to be away from everything. These are the moments when I am most spontaneous and willing to cast aside any responsibilities.


I have a habit of keeping half-written drafts…well, half-written and unpublished. This one is from 2 years ago.

I heard recently from somewhere that when someone is in pain, the only way they can move forward is to take it one day at a time. Planning long-term goals gets thrown out the window. That’s because it’s unbelievably hard to think about your future when you’re just trying to get through the day. For the first time, I realized this is how I’d been living the past couple of years.

“There is no greater sorrow than to recall in misery the time when we were happy.” — Dante

I’ve never been afraid of learning. It’s something that always just came fairly easily. In fact, I feel as if I’ve spent more time wanting to learn than actually putting effort into it. As a child, I wanted to learn to play piano (I know right, what an Asian-American kid rebel). I wanted to learn gymnastics. I wanted to learn sword-fighting, believe it or not. But due to my family’s circumstances and moving around so much, I didn’t get those chances to learn. …

Ting Wang

feeler, thinker, obsessor, writer of drafts

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